09/21/07: Devil's advocate time again...

(Though that term's origins don't quite jibe its common usage.)

Why are people racist with regard to interracial coupling? You really think it's as simple as skin color and racial features? Yes, and no.

When a black woman sees a black man with a white woman her thought could be "he's sold out" or "he's rejected women of his own race".

When a white man sees a white woman with a black man "she's only dating him because of the sexual myth that black men have bigger wangs*" or "she hates her own race" or "she has a fetish" possibly "she's a hooker" .

*deliberately chosen to lighten the mood

Even non-asian men who date Asian female are referred to as buying into some " asian woman are submissive" stereotype or having "an asian fetish". That's somehow not taboo to say, compared to saying someone has a "white fetish" or "black fetish". And fetishes aren't all cool, despite what you heard, because it's objectifying things and people for sexual purposes. A fetishist doesn't necessarily love the person, they might love their foot, legs, bust, race, ethnicity, etc...

Also, you don't see that much broad across the board mixing, not even in liberal areas. Usually, asian-woman and white man and white woman and black man couples. There's some hispanics mixing with whites and black, too, but hispanic is an ethnicity that can cover a lot of people. We aren't an enlightened society where most people actually look at "romance" with a color blind eyes. People tend to have an established mindset about who they want (race/religion and class all apply). Sure, plenty of guys will fuck anything, but who do they want?

There's hypocrisy, too. Parents might be cool with their son dating, even marrying an Asian girl. But if their daughter hooked up with an East Indian?

Black parents might be cool with their sons courting white girls, but be furious if their daughter dated white guys.

The big thing for white people is that any child of mixed race tends to look more like the non-white race, and, like it or not, tend to be treated differently by almost everyone. People try to play that off and say it isn't true. But many half-white/half-black people I've met associate far more with blacks than whites, and even go to lengths to express their "blackness". Not that they had much of a choice, given the racial baggage of the culture.

Why would white parents want their grandchildren to be so removed from the culture, heritage, etc. the grandparents possibly value? Not only would the children appear more non- white than white, but also quite possibly belong to a different subculture. Should they be hated for wanting their grandchildren to look like they do and value their heritage?

Immigrants parents are traditionalists and want their kids to marry others of their ethnic group to preserve their culture and religion and values, too. Many East Indians and Arabs are like that, as are some Asian groups. Should they be hated for that?

Also, children of bigoted parents like that HAVE to know their parents would disapprove of them dating outside their parents' criteria. They do it anyway. Kids rebelling and trying to piss off mom and pop combined with the "forbidden fruit" mentality. Then they boo-hoo when mom and dad get upset.

So maybe, racist parents, particularly racist white parents have a legit gripe. But that doesn't mesh with the political correctness that's been pushed on everyone. And you don't have it to like it or them.

You can't fuck till people are gray, btw. The only gray people I ever saw were on Star Trek. Besides, then cultural group bigotry instead, like spanish speakers vs. English speakers. And people who value freedom vs. non-Americans.

(There, I just got added to everyone's killfile.)

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