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Absolute Basturd. I'm extremely glad that you've accepted my apology.
I am sorry for your loss. I don’t think people would be upset if you spoke about it here. If they have a problem with it, just remember that this place lives on freedom of speech. They may ignore it if they don’t care for it. Eloquence sometimes comes from sincerity, rather than pretty wordsmithing.
It is also much better to vent by discussing your situation than to tear into people.
Please heal. And please give some of the folks here another chance. I'm not the only good person around here. Really. jen here is a good example of a nice person. JYD, and Wulfgar too to pick other posters posting in this thread who I know you are having conflicts with elsewhere. (Note that jen is offering that you speak up 'care to share, AB?' about the previous situation. I assure you she's one of the more sympathetic folks around here.)
And you. Don't forget yourself on that list. You must have something in you that wants to be that way or we wouldn't be having this conversation.
Believe it or not, most of the people I see you fighting with around the website are better people than you might believe in your current situation.
That second chance thing will have to be a two-way street and if they don’t want to go that route that’s certainly their concern. Good or not, they may not be easily forgiving. And you may have to offer them some sort of apology for specifics. I can't do more than encourage.
Of course I'm assuming you might want to make friends with these people. I doubt your healing will be quick if you don't start somewhere though. And you keep coming back here for some reason.
Maybe when you heal, you won't want to post as Arrogant Basturd. You’ve gone through three aliases so far, maybe you should consider another new one. Starting fresh has substantial advantages.
Might our previous "Full Monty" conversation have included a statement from me like this?:
"Most feedback here is negative. If people give you no feedback, it might be a good thing, but if people give you any feedback it will be, nine times out of ten, negative. So whenever you are asking for feedback, you are asking to get hurt."
And you might've replied something like "I never thought of it that way."
That poster disappeared not too long after that conversation. I thought at the time for happier waters. You have a similar style to that person. I'm not recalling the name for sure. Both 'Bill Smith' and 'Smitty' come to mind for some reason, but that may be a false memory trace.
Was that you?
The only conversation that I recall where someone actually said "You are my new GOD" to me was when I was playing a lyrics game (lyrics of the 80's) and I got one of the stumpers: Midnight Blue. At the time, I thought it was just exaggerated praise. That time, I didn’t acknowledge it. It did please and embarrass me. If I’d thought it was more than an exaggeration, I would’ve tried to put an end to it.
Please don't make anyone else a god. It isn't a good situation for you and isn't a good situation for them. They will fail, and you will inevitably be disappointed in them. It is a setup from the beginning. And if you’re willing to do them the favor of thinking highly of them, you might continue the favor by not setting them up for failure. All will fail and the void you must be trying to fill will just return.
And I certainly don’t qualify. I’m sure my girlfriend could attest to that.
(Although I do recall the advice from Ghostbusters "If someone asks you if you are a god, say YES!") :^)
Good fortune to you. May your grief end quickly.
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