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That line you quoted wasn't meant for YOU, it was meant for Emerald and Bickle and obviously X-MAN. You said pretty much everything I believe is true about the "average" woman, right down to validating the "filtering" theory. I know you weren't ridiculing him. I know you were trying to help. I was trying to say you're one of the good ones (because you are nice AND being honest), but I can see how you might have thought otherwise from what I wrote. I apologize for the misunderstanding.
And I definitely don't consider this line cruel or snotty: "I do not approach or allow myself to be approached by guys that do not first meet my standards as far as physical appearances." That's just a fact of life and if all people would follow this rule (and admit it exists), the world would be a much happier place with a lot less misunderstandings about "just being friends" (the single dirtiest f-word in the English language). And I think this is appropriate as well: "When I say Men, I mean ones that have already caught my eye with their appearance first. If you do not pass stage one, sorry you would not have the opportunity to allow any of the other things I seek to be displayed." That's FILTERING, 100 % pure, and I applaud you for admitting you do it. Almost EVERYBODY does it. Now that's not to say that *I* might not meet a woman one day who I'm not particularly physically attracted to in the beginning, but after a few months her personality grows on me and suddenly she seems like the most beautiful woman on earth-- that's happened on many occasions. BUT, it's only happened with women I was indifferent to. Women I was initially completely repulsed by have never become more attractive to me, no matter how glowing their personality, and she may deny it, but I believe the same is true of Veruca. WHATEVER it is that physically repulses her will never be overcome by "self-confidence" and a "wonderful personality."
c. F. L.
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